{"id":1050,"date":"2015-03-29T21:52:49","date_gmt":"2015-03-30T01:52:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/?p=1050"},"modified":"2015-03-29T21:52:49","modified_gmt":"2015-03-30T01:52:49","slug":"im-not-your-friend-im-your-boss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/?p=1050","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I&#8217;m Not Your Friend &#8230; I&#8217;m Your Boss&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fcbkbttn_buttons_block\" id=\"fcbkbttn_left\"><div class=\"fcbkbttn_button\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/facebook-button-plugin\/images\/standard-facebook-ico.png\" alt=\"Fb-Button\" \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div><div class=\"fcbkbttn_like \"><fb:like href=\"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/?p=1050\" action=\"like\" colorscheme=\"light\" layout=\"standard\"  width=\"225px\" size=\"small\"><\/fb:like><\/div><\/div><p>While watching a movie the other evening, I heard one character shout this line to another character. It got me thinking &#8230; can a leader be a friend to team members; or, must there be a line separating the leader from the team?<\/p>\n<p>To answer this question, let me begin by repeating something that those who regularly follow this blog already know &#8230; there is a significant difference between being a leader and being a boss. As my first agency manager, Ray, always reminded us, &#8220;A boss is just a Double SOB spelled backwards.&#8221; Bosses are typically authoritarian figures who often demonstrate the negative traits of whatever their dominant personality type might be.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Bossy, controlling, argumentative, overly aggressive, insensitivity, thoughtless.<\/li>\n<li>Suspicious, uncompromising, constantly on guard, accusatory, distrustful.<\/li>\n<li>Easily hurt by criticism, feelings of helplessness, poor coping skills.<\/li>\n<li>Excessively emotional, overly dramatic, whining, loud, boisterous, scattered and hyperactive, self-centered.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Great Leaders recognize that there is room for friendship but also recognize where they may act less as a friend and more as a leader.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Because they are the leader, they must sometimes deliver bad news; but, they do so in a manner that communicates the importance of the message while avoiding belittling any person or delivering the message in a demeaning way.<\/li>\n<li>Because they are the leader, they must sometimes take corrective actions; but, they do so in ways that honor the good intent of the follower even when the action was unsatisfactory or inappropriate.<\/li>\n<li>Because they are the leader, they must make hard decisions; but, they make those decisions with an effort to deliver the most positive outcomes for the team.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Can a leader be a friend and a leader? I believe the answer is yes so long as all parties recognize and acknowledge that there will be times when the Great Leader must act less like a friend and more like a leader.<\/p>\n<p>Have you had the experience of working with a leader that you also considered a friend? Share your experience, where things went well and times when the friendship was tested, by clicking on &#8220;Comment&#8221;.<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/TomHeadandShoulders-Photo-1-inch-size.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-730\" title=\"TomHeadandShoulders Photo 1 inch size\" src=\"https:\/\/eagleoneresources.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/09\/TomHeadandShoulders-Photo-1-inch-size.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"88\" height=\"115\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<em>Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>While watching a movie the other evening, I heard one character shout this line to another character. It got me thinking &#8230; can a leader be a friend to team members; or, must there be a line separating the leader from the team? 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