What Could Possibly Make an Introverted Relater a Great Leader?

As much as a Relater Personality is the complete opposite of a Commander Personality (the quintessential “leader” that is on the shelf at type-casting), Relaters can be Great Leaders. What are the skill sets and characteristics that the Relater brings to the leadership table that make this personality an ideal fit in some circumstances?

  • Team and Consensus Builder – I recently read an article that was premised on the idea of being the new manager/leader who has to follow in the footsteps of a really BAD leader; one who used and abused his team. My first thought was that the ideal candidate for this position could well be a Relater. Relaters are all about creating and maintaining harmony. They take the time to build a team. They value everyone’s input and strive to build a consensus that all team members can support. How do they do this? They begin by being a …
  • Good Listener – In the article referenced above, it was understood that all members of the existing “team” KNEW that they were dysfunctional and they all had ideas about how they had become that way and what was needed to remedy the problem. The ideal candidate to turn this dysfunctional team into a smoothly operating production machine is someone who will take the time to listen to what the team members feel is needed; and, who will implement the best ideas, giving credit to those who contribute to the turn around. These are behaviors that Relaters excel at. They are …
  • Patient and Supportive – Change seldom happens “overnight”. Change, especially radical change, takes time and require encouragement. Again, Relaters understand this and will give the team time to adopt new systems and new thought processes, encouraging and supporting the people who make it happen.
  • Thoughtful – Once again, we need to recognize that Relaters, as introverted personality types, need to have their alone time to recharge their batteries; to re-energize themselves. Great Leaders who are Relaters and who use their alone time to consider their team and the situation in which it finds itself can find the opportunities that are available to the team and can develop strategies for turning dreams into realities.
  • Empathy – Relaters have tremendous empathy for others and can relate to the needs of other people. They are able to see themselves in another person’s shoes. A former neighbor, a Relater personality, worked in the construction industry. A job that he was supervising was slightly behind schedule and the client needed to obtain the certificate of occupancy (C.O.) on the coming Monday morning. There were no extensions to be had. Recognizing that his crew had been working hard and would not be excited at the prospect of working on Saturday to finish the job on time, this man did not begin by telling the crew that they would have to work on Saturday. Instead, he began by telling everyone how much he appreciated all that they had done to get the job this far; and, how proud he was of the quality of their work. He then made the statement that the final inspection for the C.O. was scheduled for Monday and that he planned to be on site at 7:30 on Saturday morning to make sure everything was done.  He then asked who would join him at 8:00 … that he’d provide the coffee and donuts. Needless to say, he had a full crew with him on Saturday, the job was finished on time, and the inspection was completed without a hitch.

Relaters have a real knack for building teams that work together … a skill that every Great Leader would love to have. Do you have an example of how a leader that you know has exercised Relater skills to build a great team. Click the COMMENT button and share it here.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

DO GREAT LEADERS PAINT THEMSELVES INTO INESCAPABLE CORNERS?

This is an open letter to those who would call themselves “leaders”.

It’s time to look at how current leadership strategies are working. All too often, we hear those who would call themselves “leaders” stating that they will not negotiate; that proposals from those who hold different views are “dead on arrival”; that differences must be resolved “my way or the highway”. In the vernacular of personality assessments, these behaviors are examples of negative personality styles wherein …

  • the Negative Commander declares that “it’s my way or the highway” and that the only acceptable behavior is conformity with exactly what he/she declares;
  • the Negative Organizer seeks refuge in the unbending adherence to perfect detail; the perfect dotting of the i’s and the perfectly balanced crossing of the t’s;
  • the Negative Relater stops seeking consensus so that “we can all get along” and takes on a martyr mentality that we are not worthy of solutions;
  • the Negative Entertainer ceases caring about making life good for everyone around him/her and begins believing that he/she must be the focal point of everyone’s attention and adoration.

These negative leadership styles are not working!  It’s time to try something else. To provide a historical example of finding workable solutions that benefit everyone …

In 1787, the Founding Fathers found themselves at a crossroads while writing the Constitution. The question centered on the nature of the legislative branch of the government.

Large states favored proportional representation wherein each state would have representation based on population; i.e., one representative for each xx number of people. This was a key component of what was referred to as the “Virginia Plan” and would give large, more populous states, more representatives than would be given to small states. Small, less populated, states feared that this form of legislature would make their opinions and wishes irrelevant; that the large states could overwhelm their smaller representation and do only what was in the interests of the large states.

Conversely, small states endorsed a legislature that would provide each state with the same number of representatives so that each state would carry the same weight in any vote; essentially, one state, one vote. This was a key component of the “New Jersey Plan” that would have kept the Articles of Confederation in place.

After a period of extended debate, Roger Sherman and Oliver Ellsworth … both representatives from Connecticut … offered a compromise solution. Combining both proposals, their compromise created a bicameral legislative branch; a Congress with two houses. One chamber, the House of Representatives would have a membership based on population; the Virginia Plan’s one representative for each xx number of people. The second chamber, the Senate, would give equal representation to each state; the New Jersey Plan’s “one state, one vote”. In proposing this compromise solution, these men demonstrated true leadership … they actively sought and found a solution that was in the best interest of the country and that the majority of the representatives could support.

Great Leaders not only talk the talk of wanting to do what is best for the nation, they work together to find solutions that accomplish the goal of doing what is right and what is best for the country. Great Leaders recognize that when they find themselves in a hole, it’s best to stop digging deeper and start digging out of the hole; to find common ground that can lead to solutions based on a consensus of what is best for the majority. Great Leaders understand that, in the immortal words of Star Trek’s Mr. Spock, “The needs of the many (the nation) outweigh the needs of the few.”

As stated above, negative leadership styles are not working!  It’s time to try something else. It’s time to seek out and find compromises that, while not giving everyone everything that they want, offer solutions that most can accept as being in the best interests of the nation. Set aside the negative leadership behaviors. It’s time to become true leaders; Great Leaders, who act in the best interests of those that they have been given the privilege of leading.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

What Do You Mean, Introverts Can Be Leaders?

Hello, type casting? I’d like to order a leader … you know, someone who is outgoing, a back-slapper, a hail good fellow well met type of person; a “take charge” guy or gal. That’s what leaders look like, isn’t it? Or is it?

COREMAP tells us that there are four personality types; Commanders, Organizers, Relaters, and Entertainers. Commanders and Entertainers are extroverts … outgoing; never saw a stranger, only a friend as yet unmet. Organizers and Relaters tend to be introverts who value their “alone” time; who are happy to be in the back of the room observing rather than at the front of the crowd drawing attention to themselves.

Call type casting for a leader and the odds are that they will send over a Commander or an Entertainer; usually the former. But, Organizers and Relaters can be Great Leaders because of the talents and skills that they bring to the table. Consider …

  • Organizers and Relaters use their alone time to re-energize themselves; and, this often includes taking time to bring clarity to their motives and values. By using their alone time to determine what truly motivates and excites them; what actions they will take in the pursuit of their goals (as well as what actions they will NOT take because those actions would violate their own personal code of ethical conduct), these introverted personalities are able to clearly set a course that they can explain to their followers and the vision that they have for the future … a vision that their team members can see and choose to be a part of.
  • While Organizers and Relaters may shun the limelight, they are often at their very best in one-on-one conversations. They use these personal conversations to convey their core message; their core values; their vision as they personalize the conversation to the individual needs of their listeners.
  • As people who choose to avoid the spotlight, introverts can be more observant of the actions of others. Organizers and Relaters watch what others say and do. They are able to see and hear those who quietly have an impact on the thoughts and actions of others. They are adept at drawing those quiet leaders into the conversation; and, they allow those people to guide the thoughts and actions of others. Equally important, they are able to identify those things that they want to change and improve … both in their environment and in themselves.

Hello, type-casting? I need a leader. Let’s not limit ourselves to the usual suspects. Great Leaders come in from all personality types and each personality type brings very specific and valuable skills to the leadership table. Let’s find the candidate who brings the needed skills to the role.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

Do As I Do, Not As I Say

Recently, I’ve been following a group discussion about how organizations can reduce the likelihood of someone within their team or organization engaging in unethical behaviors. Interestingly … but not surprisingly … the consensus seems to be that ethical behavior starts at the top of the organization when it is modeled by the leaders of that organization. Great Leaders recognize that their behavior speaks so much louder than their words. Consequently, they keep these points in mind at all times and allow these points of ethical behavior to guide them in all that they do.

  • Remember … wherever you are and whatever you do, you represent your company, your team, and yourself. People will see you and how you deport yourself. They will remember. They will make the logical assumption that what you did is a clear indication of who you are and what you stand for. As an example, I once knew a young man who was a teacher. He made the careless assumption that what he did outside of school hours would neither be noticed nor remembered by his students. One weekend, he went to a flea market wearing a t-shirt with a rather risqué saying on it. He saw no problem with that since he was “an adult” and could do as he pleased. On Monday, one of his students stated that he’d seen the teacher and quoted the saying on the t-shirt. Then, the student shocked the teacher by asking, “How can you tell us in class that we should respect others when that t-shirt tells us that you do not respect the people it makes fun of?” This teacher had forgotten the reality that EVERYTHNG he did, wherever he went, told others his values and his beliefs.
  • If you expect others to maintain confidences, you must maintain them yourself. All leaders, Great Leaders and not-so-great-leaders see and hear things that should not be repeated. The difference is that not-so-great-leaders see these things as fodder for gossip and opportunities to get a laugh by making someone the object of a joke. Great Leaders adhere to the old adage that “What you see here, say here, and hear here must stay here.” They don’t repeat things that were said in confidence and they don’t turn the misfortunes of others into punch lines.
  • If you expect that others respect you as a person, you must demonstrate that you respect other people. Great Leaders understand that respect cannot be demanded nor can it be expected by virtue of the title on one’s door. It must be earned; and, one of the best ways to earn respect is to show it. An actual case witnessed by someone that I consider to be a Great Leader should serve to illustrate this point. The owner of a company expected his employees to respect him. He felt that it was his due. However, he regaled his employees daily with tales of his wife’s ineptitude and what he considered to be her lack of common sense. Rather than finding these stories humorous, his employees could not believe the disrespect that he showed for his spouse and wondered aloud how he talked about them when they weren’t around.

Great Leaders set the example that they want others to emulate. Be it their professionalism, their work ethic, their compassion and understanding for others, Great Leaders model the behavior that they expect of others. They know that actions speak far louder than words and they make sure that their actions set the standard for others to live up to.

What actions have you witnessed by a Great Leader who sets the standard for others to live up to; or, by not-so-great-leaders who lower the bar to the lowest common denominator? Click the comment button and share your experiences here.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

When Great Leaders Are In The Valley of Despair …

Do great leaders ever face challenges that seem overwhelming; setbacks that appear to be too great to overcome; failures that feel insurmountable? You bet they do! So, how do they overcome them and retake control?

The first step is to know which voices to listen to. No, I’m not talking about friends, advisors, coaches. Granted, all of those people can help the Great Leader in his or her quest. But, what I’m talking about here are the voices in our heads. The ones that tell us what we are capable of accomplishing and encourage us; and, the ones that try to convince us that we can’t attain our goals.

Mental attitude is so important when facing challenges. I once heard a speaker say “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right!” Great Leaders know the voices of negativity are not friends. They are insidious creators of doubts who will point out every obstacle they can find and create barriers where none exist. The positive voices see the impediments, recognize them as challenges, and whisper, “we can do this … we just need to find the way … there is a way.”

The second step is to take action; massive action. Great Leaders have a vision of the future and they recognize that the way to turn that vision into a reality is to take action proactively. They have neither the time nor the patience to be reactive. Nor do they have the willingness to dabble in baby steps. They know that the harder they work, the more actions they take, the sooner they will know if they are on the right track. If they are on the right track, they’ll attain their goals and turn dreams into realities sooner. If they are on the wrong track, they’ll find out quickly and be able to change course sooner.

Renowned sales trainer Ray Leone once asked the late, great, Zig Ziglar what he would say to people who were currently facing challenges, setbacks, or failures. Zig’s answer was that he would tell them that the food that would help them climb the mountains is grown down in the valleys.

Great Leaders recognize that the valley is where the source of their power originates. It is the wellspring of their inspiration; and, it is where they will find the tools that will enable them to achieve the pinnacles of success.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

Why Do I Follow That Leader?

I recently had a “conversation” via e-mail with the son of some of my oldest and dearest friends. Bill is in his middle 30’s, an Eagle Scout who has some interesting insights into the concept of leadership. When asked what traits he believed caused an individual to say “I choose to follow that leader”, Bill wrote the following reply. With his permission, I share it with you.

“The sort of traits that cause a person–or me, at least–to say, “this is someone I choose to follow,” are: authenticity, integrity, character, honesty.  These are naturally related to each other and are the antithesis of the more common “do as I say, not as I do” leaders (using the term loosely) we tend to find otherwise.  Whatever a person’s convictions or beliefs, to claim some title, adjective, or position as one’s own, but then behave in diametric opposition thereto is fraud, plain and simple.  This establishes the moral authority to be a leader, but that is not the sole requisite of genuine leadership.  I have heard it said that there is a difference between a manager and a leader: the former maintains the status quo, whereas the latter makes an original and positive contribution to those he or she leads.  Put another way, a person may be compelled to follow a manager, but will voluntarily follow a genuine leader.

“Perhaps the most striking example of a genuine leader is Pope Francis.  The full and formal title belonging to his office is: “Bishop of Rome, Vicar of Jesus Christ, Successor of the Prince of the Apostles, Supreme Pontiff of the Universal Church, Primate of Italy, Archbishop and Metropolitan of the Roman Province, Sovereign of the Vatican City State, Servant of the servants of God.”  Not only does this lengthy description imply that the incumbent has some rather large shoes to fill, it is about the last phrase that I wish to comment.  Personal beliefs and practices, such as they may be, aside, taking on the title of “Servant of the servants of God” echoes teachings attributed to Christ, according to which and to whom he should necessarily be conducting his own affairs and those of the Church.  Let us consider this news story (http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/06/24/us-pope-concert-idUSBRE95N0S920130624) published just this week.  Of particular interest in the Reuters article is the description of him putting his work ethic above social affairs, consistently declining the material wealth normally associated with his office, and conducting his daily duties as closely as possible to ‘the people,’ rather than in seclusion.  This, to me, is the definition of moral authority: he is conducting his own affairs and is evaluating plans for conducting those of the Church both according to his understanding of Christ’s teachings and to the Jesuit mission.  The fact that his doing so seems to surprise people might suggest that we should evaluate our own expectations as to what exactly we believe ourselves to be entitled, as opposed to privileged to have.  Certainly the contributions Francis will make to the Church are expected to be positive (and God help the Church if his approach is actually original), making him a genuine leader.”

Authenticity, integrity, character, honesty … four words that speak to the high moral disposition that inspires others to follow. Great leaders who desire to positively impact the lives of those who choose to follow would do well to keep Bill’s answer in mind.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

Leaders Find A Way To Do That Which Cannot Be Done

Roman emperor and stoic philosopher, Marcus Aurelius wrote that something that appears difficult to one person should not be considered to be impossible for someone else to accomplish. Herein lies one of the secrets of Great Leaders, the recognition that leadership carries with it the responsibility for finding a way to get things done.

While weak leaders give up and make excuses for not completing what they set out to do, Great Leaders see the opportunities that are presented by difficult challenges. Great Leaders

  • acknowledge what has not worked in the past without dwelling on the past
  • embrace non-traditional thinking and the possibilities that this offers
  • recognize that just because something does not work, the effort does not represent a failure, it simply moves everything one step closer to success
  • continue to search for solutions until they find the one that leads to success

My first agency manager, Ray, repeatedly told us that getting knocked down did not mean you had failed. Failure only occurred when you refused to get back up and try again. Great Leaders know this; and, because they know and BELIEVE this, they do not fear setbacks; they do not fear trying something that is not a “guaranteed sure thing”; they do not hesitate to try something new. They know that hard work and effort will result in success. They instill this belief in those who follow them. They encourage renewed effort in the face of adversity and they recognize and reward that continuing effort when it occurs.

In the end, Great Leaders find ways to do what everyone else says cannot be done. If you have had the advantage of following a Great Leader, comment here to share how that person inspired your success.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

Do You Accept Responsibility and Give Credit Where it is Due?

Over 50 years ago, Americans were exhorted to ask not what their country could do for them; but rather, to ask what they can do for their country. Today, there appears to be a sense that people are making every effort to get more than they give. The exception to this, of course, is Great Leaders. They recognize that committing all of their skill, all of their imagination, to the betterment of the team builds success not just for themselves but for all team members.

Weak leaders look at life through the lense of ‘What’s In It For Me?” Their sole concern is their own personal aggrandizement and enrichment. They will do everything within their power to ensure that they receive all of the credit for the team’s successes; and, they will take whatever actions are necessary to deflect blame for the team’s failures away from themselves and onto someone else.

Conversely, Great Leaders attribute the team’s success to the efforts of the team members. In success, they deflect the glory and accolades to their team members and accept only that they were fortunate to have a great team that made the success possible. In failure, they state quickly and without reservation that the fault resides not in the efforts of the followers; but rather, in the leadership that they themselves failed to provide. Everything that they do, every action that they take, is a commitment to the improvement of the team and tangible evidence of their belief in the abilities and capabilities of their team. In the final analysis, by giving credit for success to the team members and accepting responsibility for team failures, Great Leaders sow the seeds of loyalty and gratitude among their followers. These followers will go the extra mile to support the leader … and when the team enjoys greater success, the Great Leader will always attribute that success back to the amazing efforts of the team.

If you have had the luxury of working with a Great Leader, please share a comment here that illustrates what made that person a Great Leader.

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

A Living Example Surpasses a Sermon on Any Day!

From the day we are born until the day we die, we are exhorted by one authority figure after another to tell the truth; to play fairly and by the rules; to obey the law. And, each and every day, we are presented examples of those same authority figures lying to their constituents, taking unfair advantage of others, violating the rules, and breaking the law. Consider these actions and the logical reactions.

A parent daily tells a child to always tell the truth. Then, one day, the telephone rings and as the child reaches for the telephone, the parent says, “If that’s for me, I’m not here”. Subsequently, the child tells a lie and the parent asks, “What in the world made you do that? Why did you lie to me?”

A law enforcement officer makes a routine traffic stop and asks the driver, “Do you realize how fast you were going? You were exceeding the speed limit and are guilty of a crime for which you will be required to pay a fine.” On another day, this same officer passes the same driver who is driving at the speed limit and rapidly disappears from sight. The driver asks himself, “Why is he allowed to speed when I’m not?”

A business manager insists that employees arrive for work on time and discharges those who are routinely late. Yet, that manager is regularly late for meetings, arrives at work long after all other employees have arrived and commenced their duties, and is never disciplined for this behavior. The typical employee must question why the rules apply to everyone but the boss.

Lawmakers make speeches and tell the public that everyone must pay their fair share of taxes (whatever that phrase means) and pass laws to ensure that citizens do so. One day, it’s revealed that a prominent politician hasn’t filed the required tax returns and owes thousands of dollars in back taxes; or, has utilized loopholes that ensure that he or she pays next to nothing. Who can blame the citizenry for losing faith in the system and  their elected officials?

Weak leaders believe that the rules apply to everyone BUT them and they regularly display behaviors for which others would be censured and punished.

Great leaders, on the other hand, know that they are being watched and that their behaviors will be emulated. They know that the teams they lead will follow the example they set. Great leaders know that actions speak louder than words and they make certain that their example sets the standard to which they want their followers to adhere.

LIKE if you believe that, as individuals who aspire to be great leaders, we must closely examine our own behaviors before critiquing the actions of others?

Tom Hoisington is a speaker, trainer, and author whose goal is to provide leaders and potential leaders with tools that empower them to build teams that are creative and cost effective along with a clearer understanding of how personality types interact within those teams. He can be contacted at tom.hoisington@eagleoneresources.com

The Easy Way Out = The Road to Failure

Sometimes things jump out at you when you aren’t even looking for them. Case in point – I was searching on-line for information regarding banking relationships when a pop-up appeared that included a statement from President Theodore Roosevelt to the effect that there were only five things that would destroy this country; prosperity at any price, peace at any price, safety first instead of duty first, the love of soft living, and a get rich quick attitude toward life. As I examined these five attitudes, I realized that each one indicated a person who was looking for the easy way rather than the right way.

Great leaders know that survival as an individual and as a nation is often dependent on foregoing the easy way and deliberately choosing to take the more difficult path. Great leaders recognize that doing the right thing is not easy; that standing up for core values and beliefs is not easy; that demanding integrity from yourself and those you lead is not easy. More importantly, great leaders inspire those around them to choose the more difficult path to success because it is not only the right thing to do, it also builds long-term relationships that benefit all concerned.

As people who aspire to be great leaders, each of us accepts the responsibility that great leadership carries; to do what is right and to inspire those who follow our lead to do likewise. A living example is far stronger and much more memorable than a well spoken lecture. Choose to do what is right; know the values and beliefs that you will not compromise; recognize and perform your duties; live in a manner that clearly demonstrates your integrity and your honor so that no one will ever question your motives. Be an example that others choose to follow and aspire to become.